Warning! Sentimental/gooey post ahead.
I just read Andrea’s exciting and inspiring post on discovering what she loves. I am so happy for her! I love seeing breakthrough posts that tell me life is always changing, and you are a big part of how your life can change. I think if there is one thing I have discovered as I approach one year of blogging is that life ain’t easy.
It ain’t easy to write consistently. It ain’t easy to pay off debt without occasionally getting derailed or frustrated. It ain’t easy to push yourself to be better when things seem good enough, even though you know you want better. Hell, it ain’t easy to make more money, start a business, wake up early, get fit, stay healthy, keep your relationships strong and happy, stop complaining, help other people, learn new things regularly or pretty much do any of the things you want to do in life.
It’s a fact of life: Life is hard! Not only that, life is always changing. Always. Things don’t stay the same. Neither do the balances of your assets and liabilities, the way you feel about people, your job, even your favorite food. I used to think that changes like that are necessarily sad. From the outside, every divorce seems like a tragedy. But if two people have grown apart and are happier discovering themselves on their own, who am I to say what is best for those people? Of course I don’t want to ever get divorced (if I get married), but how can we know how we will change 25 years from now? We can only do what we can in the present with love and awareness and the future will take its course.
So while I am nowhere close to enlightenment, or even total awareness in my life, I do try to incorporate a little bit of it into everyday. Because in general, I am one of those happy people. My brother once said to me, in a kind of wonder, “You’re just one of those people who wakes up in the morning, and you’re happy to be alive!” I still think it was one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten. And it’s true! I am happy in my heart and I always have been. Life has been stressful in the last couple years, but I don’t want that happiness to go away. I’ve let my feelings get the better of me lately (more than I’d like to admit) and it doesn’t have to be that way. Life can be hard but I can still be happy. I have debt (dumb debt that is my own fault) but I can still be happy. I can work every single day and I can definitely still be happy (I’ve been loving working). I can want to make it big (or as I’ve been thinking of it, get rich or die tryin’) but I can still enjoy what each day has to offer.
With that, I’d like to share three books that I have found to be inspiring. The first two I’ve mentioned before and the last one is a new discovery. The common trait between these three books is that I laughed, pointed and judged a book by its cover for a long time before sitting down to read each these books. There is a lot of self-help garbage literature in the world and it’s easy to mock the genre. Too easy! Look at those titles! And don’t get me started on Suzanne Somers or Kevin Trudeau! But these books, even the ones that I think are junk, have helped a lot of people grow and view their lives differently. If a book can help you or move you to change some aspect of your life, then it has accomplished its mission. So I hope you will take the time to check out these three favorites of mine:
Wherever You Go, There You Are by Jon “The first rule of meditation is you don’t talk about meditation” Kabat-Zinn
Finding Your Strength in Difficult Times by David Viscott “Education doesn’t make you happy. Success doesn’t make you kind. Poverty doesn’t make you wise. Riches don’t make you full. Experience doesn’t make you smart. But love can teach you everything.”
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff–and it’s all small stuff by Richard Carlson “Trusting your intuitive heart means listening to and trusting that quiet inner voice that knows what is you need to do, what actions need to be taken, or changes need to be made in your life. Many of us dont listen to our intuitive heart, for fear that we couldn’t possibly know something without thinking it through, or for fear that legitimate answers could possibly be so obvious.”
Well, that’s my weekend inspiration for you. I know you get frustrated because life is hard, believe me, it’s hard for me too. It’s hard for everyone. But it’s also life. It’s all we have. It will be over before you know it. And at the end of the day, I am grateful I can still wake up in the morning and feel happy to be alive 🙂
Have a great weekend and go do something fun and cheap!