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I had to share this with the world. I head into the kitchen at work to find that someone has brought muffins and donuts…
And then I see that someone is on a healthy kick and wants fruit…followed by a blunt suggestion….
And finally, someone just goes avant-garde with it all and makes this final contribution…
My friends over at Envisionaries posted this great quote recently:
“Don’t be deceived when they tell you things are better now. Even if there’s no poverty to be seen because the poverty’s been hidden. Even if you ever got more wages and could afford to buy more of these new and useless goods which industries foist on you and even if it seems to you that you never had so much, that is only the slogan of those who still have much more than you. Don’t be taken in when they paternally pat you on the shoulder and say that there’s no inequality worth speaking of and no more reason to fight because if you believe them they will be completely in charge in their marble homes and granite banks from which they rob the people of the world under the pretence of bringing them culture. Watch out, for as soon as it pleases them they’ll send you out to protect their gold in wars whose weapons, rapidly developed by servile scientists, will become more and more deadly until they can with a flick of the finger tear a million of you to pieces.”
-Jean-Paul Marat (1743-1793). French political student, journalist, physician and one of the leaders of the French Revolution.
(It gave me goosebumps, considering the parallels here and here)
Nearly every great blog is a meta-blog. That is, it can’t help but consciously refer back to itself. Think of it as meta-blognition (blogging about blogging). The fact that bloggers are always talking about blogging, how to blog and how they even make a living off of their blog is part of what makes these sites so entertaining and keeps readers coming back for more. The blogging society or industry, depending on how you view it, is unique from any other field or group of people I’ve ever studied. If you decided to be an actor tomorrow with zero experience and zero contacts and moved to Hollywood, what kind of response would you get from the entertainment industry? I can think of a few colorful responses and none of them sound like,”Welcome to Hollywood! I’m going to teach you EVERYTHING I KNOW so you can be just as good as me or better because your success becomes my success! And there’s room for everyone in this town! The more the merrier, come on in!” And yet, that is the exact message of almost every one of the great blogs I have discovered in the past few months. Kevin from 20smoney.com says, “As the blog grew, I started to make a little money. I kept thinking about how anyone could do this. Really, anyone.”
And I’ve been blogging for about a month now, so I think it is time for me to join polite blogging society and shared what I have learned so far from my own blogging adventures and from the much more sophisticated blogs that I read regularly.
5 Things You Should Know About Blogging
1. The Best Bloggers Share Everything (Part 1). Everything I need to know about how to blog, how to monetize, how to build traffic, how to make my content more relevant and a million other important ideas on growing a site is available on hundreds and maybe thousands of popular blogs. ABDPBT has a free ebook on maximizing online revenue by becoming your own ad network. Geniustypes spells it out from the very beginning of starting a blog. And Frugal Dad wants everyone to start a blog as a side hustle. 20smoney.com gives you detailed online income reports and gives you lots of ideas on building your own site. When it’s time to start adding some aesthetic quality to your site, check out Hongkiat and Creattica. There is no end to the amount of information and ideas that people online are willing to share with you, and most of it for free. Sometimes it’s hard to pull myself away from learning all of these things and focusing on building my own site, but overall, the excess of information out there is an incredible tool that new bloggers have.
2. Good Content Takes Time to Write and Edit. Dude, freaking tell me ’bout it. I started this blog just over a month ago and I have at least 20 posts in draft stage that I am working on and I have new ideas every day for future articles. But as I’ve said before, I’m an ideas person. I come up with ideas constantly, but I’m not great about following through with them. But good blogs are about consistency, and a good post can’t just be a one-liner like “I have noticed that people are getting fatter.” This might be true, but it is not enough content for a post. Why are they getting fatter? Why are you noticing it? Is it because you’re also getting fatter? Who’s been talking about fat people in the news? Is there a new study you can link to? So you get the point. You want to develop a story for each post. A good post takes at least a few hours for me, and then I let it sit for a day before going back to look at it and either edit it or add a few final touches to it. But in the end, you’re only going to get readers based on the content you are providing, so this is where most of your time should be spent.
3. The Best Bloggers Share Everything (Part 2). Blogs usually have a niche topic (or a broader lifestyle idea like Pioneer Woman), but in either case, they offer LOTS of information on their chosen topic. The great bloggers are good at getting into the nitty gritty of exactly how to do something, are honest and straight-forward, and sometimes talk about controversial or uncomfortable topics. I think the reason some of the personal finance blogs are so popular is because they are honest. People talk about the mistakes they have made with money, but also offer tons of step by step advice on finding a new path out of debt (like this excellent article by Brian of Geniustypes), finding additional income streams and changing how we view money. It’s easier to relate to Dave Ramsey when he tells you he has lost millions of dollars, and he learned what he preaches now the hard way. There are of course other great blogs outside of the personal finance arena, like Steve Pavlina’s site or Design Mom, who’s just lovely in everything.
4. There is Always Something You Could Be Doing On Your Blog. This is related to #1, in that there is so much information to learn and apply about blogging, which means that there is always something you could be doing to improve your site. There are lots of ways to monetize your site besides Google Adsense, and with Amazon Associates out of California, bloggers have to look for other opportunities, many of which can actually make more money than Amazon.com Associates program offered. One avenue is Text -Link Ads, which I plan to use but not until this site has at least 20 good posts and is getting more daily page views.
5. If You Write It, They Will Come. Another piece of invaluable advice that is repeated all over the blogosphere (I finally got to use that word non-ironically!) is that you have to keep writing. Writing and blogging are just habits. How do you form a habit? Well, I’ve heard it takes 30 days to form a habit and that goes for creating new content for your blog on a regular basis. My goal is about 2-3 good posts a week. It’s been a month so far for the American Debt Project and it has become a part of my daily activities to work at least 30 minutes a day on my blog. The other thing about blogs is that the traffic builds up very slowly at first, but you will start to see results after one year of posting regularly. So according to the blogosphere (twice!), I should be rolling in C-notes by June 2012. No? Ok, well maybe not rolling in them, but hopefully I will be generating at least one C-note a month just from advertising on my site. The more exciting part will be having readers and comments to respond to. Oh how I look forward to my first comment!
I don’t like penny-pinching any more than you do. I hate clipping, carrying and using coupons. I am not crazy about this whole budget thing, even though it does seem better than my “spend blindly and hope for the best” plan of yore. Besides my rent and debt payments, my biggest cost each month is food. And I know that there is plenty of food I end up tossing each month, so I am looking for ways to cut down on all the waste.
I buy too much food for a two-person household, and at least half of the stuff I buy goes bad before I finally throw it out. I have good intentions about making food, but I still don’t do it. I often come home to a full refrigerator and look at the head of lettuce and think, “I’ll make a salad tomorrow. It’s not going anywhere.” And I repeat that mantra until the lettuce is sufficiently soggy and brown to warrant throwing out. It’s not just me though, at least 1/3 of the world’s food production ends up going to waste. There are foods where this happens way too often and here are a few foods that are always outsmarting me:
7 Foods that Go to Waste Way Too Often
1. Bread
Ciabatta, pita, sourdough, tortilla, naan, sangak, lavash, bagels, seedless rye and plain ol’ Wonder bread. Those are just the kinds of bread I have in the house right now. I love bread in all variations and when I buy too much of a good thing, I can’t eat it all, even when I eat bread everyday. If I leave it out, it gets moldy, and if it stays in the fridge for too long, it becomes stale. I can’t win!
Solution: Buy less varieties of bread at a time, or at least finish one type of bread before buying another.
2. Asparagus
Asparagus is a super food and it’s freakin’ delicious. My boyfriend does a great grilled and marinated asparagus, and every time he makes it, I immediately go out and buy more asparagus the next day so we can make it again. But of course we don’t eat asparagus two days in a row, and by the third day the excitement has waned and I’m eyeing the asparagus warily and wondering how long before it goes bad? And the answer is, you’ve got about a week. And if you can’t get excited about asparagus within the week, say goodbye to that $3.99 a pound vegetable. Ok, sometimes it’s on sale for $1.99, but that’s not everyday and my cravings don’t change because of sales. (Although they should. Note to self: rewire cravings mechanism in brain. Has Steve Pavlina written about this?)
Solution: Don’t buy asparagus until the day you are planning on making it.
3. Mangoes
Mangoes need no extra flavoring or fancy preparation, and they are so sweet and distinct from other fruits. It takes some time to peel a mango, but it’s not really that part that detains me, I think that you have to be in a certain mood to eat a mango. Like, let’s slow life down a little bit and eat this amazing mango. It’s bright and yellow and it’s has rough and soft texture at the same time. Lately I haven’t been able to slow myself down and my mangoes are turning into leather in the fruit compartment of the fridge.
Solution: Relax and eat more mangoes.
4. Cucumbers, Zucchinis, Bell Peppers, et al
These all fall into one category because they go to waste for the same reason: they go bad fairly quickly and sometimes you just don’t need a zucchini in your dinner. But they’re all great foods and the solution here is pretty much the same as with the asparagus.
Solution: Buy smaller quantities of vegetables that spoil quickly and don’t buy too many varieties before you already know what you are going to make with them (and plan to make it soon).
5. Feta Cheese
Even though feta cheese keeps for a long time, especially in brine, I just buy way too much of it. I think it’s always been a comfort food and so I buy a pound at a time, even though I’m the only one who eats it, and even then, I always forget I have it. Also, I like getting stuff from the international market, where they have the best Bulgarian feta and they always nod approvingly every time I order it.
Solution: Buy a 1/4 lb. of any specialty cheese at a time so you don’t get sick of eating it. Stop seeking approval from strangers.
6. Meats
How many times have you used 1/2 lb. of hamburger meat, frozen the other 1/2, and promptly forgot all about it? What about with chicken breasts? In bigger households, the use half, freeze half method works great, because they are much more likely to use the other half of the meat quickly. But if you’re single or just two people, there are probably tons of foods you’ve frozen and forgotten about until it was time to clear the fridge. It might not always make sense, but why not just make the entire portion and serve the extras for lunch the next day?
Solution: Buy smaller portions and use as much of the meat as you can right away, keep frozen portion in high-visibility shelf of the freezer to remind yourself to cook it sooner.
7. Bananas
I eat a banana a day, but I also buy a lot of bananas. But bananas are the one food that I have been able to save, even without eating them right away, as long as I remember to freeze or use them before it’s too late. I freeze them for smoothies or throw them into a very quick banana bread recipe.
Solution: Freeze them before they turn into blackened, fly-attracting banana corpses or mash them up for banana bread.
I always over-shop for food, especially when I’m hungry. If you find yourself throwing out food on a regular basis, it doesn’t hurt to try buying smaller portions, even when Costco’s monster portions are being shoved in our faces as the “economical” choice. But how economical is it to buy an entire wheel of brie if you’re not going to eat it? Or the Hagrid-sized antipasto platter when you have 2 friends coming over? That’s my thought for the day, and now I’m off to finish this antipasto platter before it goes bad.
I have yet to master the art of not losing steam midway through a project. I’m great at envisioning things. I can even come up with the next steps I need to take for the idea to happen, and maybe I’ll even take a step or two. But eventually I start doubting the whole thing and it’s just easier to give up. It has been a true challenge with paying off debt and sticking to not using credit cards. Right now, it has been exactly 1 month of not using any credit cards. I know I can keep going, but I am changing a habit of EIGHT years! With that said, I’d like to take a little trip down memory lane…
How I First Got into Debt
Even though I had never been much for saving money, I didn’t have any debt through my first two years of college. I had gotten a credit card my freshman year, but I was paying it in full whenever I used it, which wasn’t every month. During the fall semester of my junior year, I studied abroad in Spain. It was one of the best times of my life. Being somewhere so new and so different was an experience that I can’t replace, and most of my motivation to get out of debt is centered around being financially competent and able to travel again, exotically. That’s not like exotic dancing, it just means going places without much of an agenda and embracing and discovering its people, its natural monuments, or its little back streets that feel like a scene from a movie. So, I was exploring Spain and meeting lots of new people. I played tennis on grass courts. I walked the entire city during siestas. I discovered José Ángel Mañas. I discovered cheap tapas at every bar on the route back to my apartment from university. I wouldn’t trade any of it!
But I also discovered the cash advance feature of my credit card, and the next thing I knew, I was using it as the most convenient way to borrow money without having to ask for it from my parents or any of my new friends in Spain. By the time I got back to the US, I had racked up about $2,000 in debt, which is a lot of money for an unemployed college student. That summer, I had a full-time job and paid off my two credit cards in full. But I didn’t create any savings and I had already gotten a taste of how easy it was to pull out a card when I didn’t have any cash, or even better, just use a card for everything since I was “getting the points”. So I used a credit card to live above my means from 2003 to 2011, and I can’t even explain how excited I am that my habits are changing.
Really Tiny Baby Steps in the Right Direction
It’s kind of embarrassing to admit, but I really didn’t get the extent of it until I hid my credit cards last month. Before that and this new budgeting idea, I never had any idea how much money I had in the bank. I knew how much my paychecks were and I tried not to spend more than that, which is not much of a budget! I made budgets for May and June, and I’ll be making my July budget this week. I’ll make my next post a picture of my July budget. I haven’t been able to follow it completely, and I haven’t put in money in envelopes for things like repairs and emergencies. I’m also learning how to control my impulses. I haven’t been out of the country in two years, and I am really dying to travel. I have plenty of vacation time saved up at work. But dropping a few thousand dollars would wipe out a year of hard work. So I spent all day at the beach yesterday with friends, which felt like a vacation in itself. I haven’t watched TV in three days, which is also something I do on vacation (not watch TV), so my mind feels relaxed and I can delay the vacation for at least a little while longer!
Reminding Myself of the Goals
I’m motivated to get out of debt and focus on building positive cash flows so that I can provide for myself, my family and good causes in my local community. I want to make the urban, run-down areas of where I live more desirable and safe, but not just for the very wealthy. Everyone should have access to open spaces for their kids to play, good schools and colleges so that they can understand the world around them and become critical thinkers (and not unquestioning drones), and safe neighborhoods. I am not sure how to do all of that, although a lot of my friends share the same motivations and a friend of my boyfriend just started Citizen Good. I know that if I am spending less hours just taking care of the basics for myself, I can find ways to make change.
June 2011 Debt Update:
Current Total: $38,021
% Change from May 2011: 6.3% Decrease!
